This is Age Appropriate... Isn't it..?

In two stages, children become aware of their individuality. At the beginning of their third or fourth year, when they take their first steps away from their parents (especially their mothers), grandparents, or other caregivers. When they start kindergarten and play with other kids their age. They start to see people, like their teachers and friends, other than the people they have lived with so far. This is where they start to learn how to live with other people. But they still have to depend on their parents or other caregivers for everything. This is the first time they have expressed a desire to go outside.

The second stage is adolescence, when their image (self-image) is formed in different ways, such as in their finances, social lives, sexual lives, mental lives, and intellectual lives. They try to find out how they will become significant in this world and whether they can survive without their parents. From this point on, the desire to leave home and see the outside world begins to grow. So, they stop going out with their parents and start making decisions on their own.

They are always trying to prove themselves to their group of friends. Boys wanted to show how tough they were, and girls wanted to show how beautiful they were, but they didn't really know why. The changes in their bodies and feelings were making them feel confused. All of these changes are new to them, and they fought over them without knowing what to do. They feel like something is wrong with them, but they can't tell their parents or teachers. And if they ask uncomfortable questions about feeling different about the opposite sex, their menstrual cycles, or even simple questions about how they look, elders will tell them to shut up. And as parents, we only see what they show us, but it's normal for them to feel this way at this age. As parents, we have to teach them the right way to talk about how they feel.

They are not big enough to understand the consequences of their behavior. But there is a curiosity to do something which is not get answered with advice. Their curiosity is not asking for fear, but answers.

 

“These children want us to let them behave like their age." 

 

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