When parents come of age.


We have always heard that children come of age, but why am I saying parents come of age? In fact, when our children come of age, changes in their behavior, speech, and appearance all happen to them. They come of age, not a parent...! If so, why is the time when children come of age stressful for parents too?

Why did our child, who seemed to be a child until yesterday, suddenly have to change so much before he knew anything? Who doesn't listen to anything anymore, doesn't come with us anywhere, is constantly enjoying themselves or with friends and mobile phones...? Doesn't all this upset parents?? That is why this is the time for parents to get along with children as their friends. How can we convey to them the struggle we are having to understand the children and the care we feel for them? Why is it a contradiction that we struggle to make friends with our children on the one hand and our children's enemies on the other? This gap is experienced by all parents and children in this phase.

These questions you have as a parent are really understandable. Don't they have a fight about how parents feel during this period? For all these questions, to properly communicate with the children and to truly bond with them, first of all, we need to admit that this is the time for us to come of age as parents in our lives. We should also try to understand ourselves as parents. which helps explain our role in understanding and explaining things to children. All these changes in children at this age are very natural, but we have to understand and learn some things as parents too.

What's wrong with understanding the meaning of coming of age as a parent?


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