What exactly is it, to be a parent?

To prepare for an 18-year project without complaining. This new member of our family is entirely reliant on us. To nourish it until it can stand on its own. We give him everything he needs as his parents, and he gives us joy and love by putting his full trust in us.

For the time being, this bond between parents and children is absolutely unconditional. However, when the child grows older, these equations change. Before we can understand such changes, we must first understand how well we know ourselves as parents.

In parenting, we must understand ourselves as individuals, as fathers and mothers, and as a couple. When we express any unpleasant emotion, such as anger at our children, we must first understand why we are angry. Is it because of how my child acts, or am I reacting badly to something else and blaming it on my child, who is just being naughty? When it comes to their children, couples frequently differ in a few areas such as studying, going out with friends, spending money, and so on, which produces a lot of confusion.

Therefore, we should be careful of our parenting style: are we “extremely strict”, managing every part of their life as if they were our property, or are we “too kind”, always ready to meet their unreasonable demands? We don't want to say no to them, or are we “constantly following them”, interfering in their lives without trusting them and disturbing their privacy, or paying no attention to them at all, being utterly “uninvolved” in their development and nurturing? Understanding what is your parenting style and that style is going to play a very important role in your child’s life.

Your child will develop in the manner in which you raise them. It should be reviewed on a frequent basis to ensure that your efforts are appropriate and respectful of its overall progress. You should notice whether your child is self-assured, how it respects others, whether it is free to express itself, and if it is friendly and cooperative. Whether they are speaking to you from the bottom of their hearts or from fear, how do you perceive all of this as parents? This should also be considered.

Do we not learn and realize these things as we raise our children?