To challenge or channelize them..!?

When kids are teenagers, their bodies, minds, and feelings go through a lot of changes. These changes are both exciting and confusing to them. They are sometimes happy and sometimes stressed. Why are there so many sudden changes? Why were they there? Is it just me, or does everyone my age deal with the same thing? Who should I ask all of these questions to, and how should I do it? They have a lot of different feelings, like confusion, fear, and curiosity.

On the other hand, their parents often think they are sick. They start to worry about it because they don't know that it's normal for kids to change as their hormones change. Because of this worry, parents start to give their kids advice and try to keep them in line by giving them strict rules.

What's the difference between parents and counselors who understand and those who explain? So, there is no emotional juggling with a counselor like there is between a parent and a child. I know your well-being; you don't teach me; you haven't grown up so much; we don't have those kinds of dialogues. Some parents are able to get along well with their kids, while others are not. The parents' success doesn't come from changing their children but from enhancing themselves.

Parents know what their kids are good at, what they dream about, what they can do, and what's good and bad about them. They know their kids, but their real job as parents is to show them how much they care. No parent is worried badly about their children. But they don't understand how to convey it, which makes them upset with each other.

So, at this age, when kids are figuring out what they can do, help them by guiding them every so often to show them what their real skills are. Your actions will show them for sure that you care about what they think. When they realize that their parents understand and respect them, they won't go outside to find answers from unreliable sources.

As parents, we know our children more than everyone else, so try to channel without challenging what they want to do. You'll know your child anew. 

 

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